Divorce Counseling for Women

She thought it was the end.

Paula* had always felt joy as she drove by the horses at her neighbor’s farm, but today, she felt numb. She wondered when – or if – anything would feel good again.

Her husband, Jack*, admitted last week that he had an affair with a co-worker on a recent business trip. He wanted a divorce. Even though Paula had felt that things had changed between them recently, she was shocked when Jack confessed his desire to end their relationship.

They had so many beautiful years together. How could Jack throw it all away for someone he just met? How could they tell their children, parents, and friends? How could they divide their assets, and what about the animals they loved dearly?

Paula worried about this until she was physically ill; she couldn’t eat or rest. How would she live through this? She had never been alone, and now, at 51 years of age – she felt utterly hopeless.

Paula reached out for help.

When Jack moved out of their home, Paula felt so devastated that she began to tell her story to everyone who’d listen. Telling that story seemed to be the only way she could find relief.

She soon felt that she was becoming a burden. Though Paula had never been to counseling, she knew she needed someone who would listen and offer guidance. With trembling hands, she made the call.

When Paula met me, I instantly helped to calm any fears she had about counseling. Once assured that our sessions were confidential, Paula felt comfortable sharing her pain. She soon realized that having a SAFE and CALM place to share her feelings offered her the most peace she had ever felt – even before Jack’s betrayal.

Paula began to realize that she had been in denial about her marriage for a long time. She realized she never felt fulfilled by being a housewife and mother and had long ago given up on her dreams of opening a bakery. Paula started to look forward to counseling sessions to help develop plans for HER future.

It wasn’t the end but a NEW BEGINNING!

Paula’s divorce from Jack was painful. While it still makes her sad at times, she realizes that she is now free to pursue her goals. She felt her husband’s life was more important for all those years.

Paula continues working with me and plans to open her small bakery. She is working on forgiving her husband and realizes that an affair is not THE PROBLEM but a symptom of more significant problems in a marriage.

Paula recently found a quote by Mark Twain: “Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.” We discussed that extending forgiveness to her ex-husband would set HER free from the mental anguish.

Divorce is often a chance for a new life.

My goal in helping someone navigate the turbulent waters of the divorce process is to assist them in realizing their life is not over and they aren’t a failure.

It’s just the opposite because life often begins after the divorce. Women often have happier lives after divorce, so it’s not an end but a beginning!

If you suffer from divorce issues, please call me today for help. I’ll be there for you!

*These are fictitious names and scenarios used only to illustrate real-life situations.